Relationship Weight Gain – How to deal with it
This is a pretty common occurrence. We are in a committed relationship, in love, happy, and the pounds start to just pack on! You feel comfortable with your mate, eat out more, and skip workouts. Before you know it, an extra 15 pounds is on your once slender frame. There are ways to deal with this, and ways to avoid it.
Do Not Match Him Bite for Bite
Why does it seem that no matter how much your spouse eats, they never seem to put on an ounce? This may not be the case for everyone, but it’s often true! Men have faster metabolisms than women. They are often leaner as well. Men tend to gravitate towards a heartier comfort type meal, while women may stick to the standard lean protein, veggie, and salad type meal (pre-relationship). It’s so easy to indulge in a triple meat double cheese pizza with your spouse… You’re both doing it… so why not? Right!?!? Just because he orders and consumes a 22oz porterhouse steak does not mean you should too! I’m not saying to avoid these foods all together, by all means, you should eat foods you truly love, but know your limits. A 5′3″ female requires much less calories than a 6′2″ male. Keep your portions in check. Order your pizza ½ cheese & veggie and ½ sausage. If you want a steak, go for a leaner cut like a Filet. Know that you’re consuming high calorie foods and keep your portions small.
Each Person’s Eating Schedule is Different
It’s pretty rare that two people are both hungry at the same time each day. Each person’s body will most likely feel hungry at different times. For example, let’s say we got home from work at 5:15pm starving. We are so hungry we can’t stand it. So, we snack our way to fullness. By the time your spouse gets home, dinner is ready, you’re not hungry anymore, but you eat anyway. If we consistently do this, weight gain can be the unpleasant result.
An easy way around this is to get to know each other’s schedule. Communicate with each other regarding what time each of you will be home and what time dinner will be. If you’re hungry for lunch at 1pm and dinner isn’t until 7:30pm, you want to plan a moderate snack somewhere in the middle, that way you feel comfortably hungry at dinner. The same goes for the weekends. Communicate, come up with a plan, and go from there.
Do Not Become A Sympathetic Eater
Just because he’s eating does not mean you have to eat. This is a hard one… I know! You’re both watching TV and all of a sudden he’s got a box of buttery crackers on his lap. Like I mentioned before, each person’s eating schedule is different. Just because he’s munching on Cheeze-It’s does not mean you should join in… If you’re not hungry, don’t eat. If you’re new to this type of thinking, it may be challenging in the beginning, but it will get easier.
Know Yourself
I’ve said this in just about every article, but you have to know yourself! Get to know your body and how it works. You know when you are eating too much and you know when you are slacking on your workouts. If you know you’re the type of person who needs to workout consistently to keep your weight in check, then continue to do that. If you find yourself consistently avoiding workouts in favor of cuddle time, it is just a matter of time before the weight creeps up.
Make Yourself a Priority
It’s important to take care of yourself and make yourself the priority. Knowing we are taking care of our body and making decisions each day towards the right direction makes us healthier, happier individuals. When we are happy with ourselves, this is likely to make us happier in life and in our relationship.
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March 27th, 2009 at 10:51 am
I like this post! It reminds me that it’s really about knowing yourself and really restructuring your perspective and your discipline and still maintaining your independence — if you’re not hungry, then don’t eat just because he is!
March 27th, 2009 at 12:26 pm
great post! this is very helpful for all of us ladies out there who enjoy eating with our partners but do not enjoy the weight gain associated with it! i definitely want to point out that there is a pressure to eat more when you know that you split the cost of groceries but he eats up everything before you get a chance to! haha.
March 27th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
Hi,
I was recently diagnosed with PCOS and I have seen that there are a ton of diets recommended to naturally manage PCOS. I am not overweight but I don’t want to go on BC to deal with the consition. However I do agree with you philosophy and have always been more of a healthy lifestyle kind of girl than a diet kind of girl. Some places recommend cutting out all types of whole grains and other suggestions like that? Do you have any suggestions? Thanks (and sorry I just posted on a random blog like that lol)
March 28th, 2009 at 11:29 am
Thanks for this article; sometimes I need a little reminder that just because we are eating the same foods, we don’t have to have the same portions! Although, I agree with the previous commenter about splitting the cost of groceries but then not eating half of the food! I get a little jealous sometimes that guys don’t have to think about what they are eating so much…
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